You cannot fully picture what a single mother's life is like unless you are in her shoes. She is at the same time, the father, the mother, the breadwinner, the cook, the cleaner, the bill payer among all other roles she plays. It is not an easy life but she keeps going. She carries herself well, because every move she makes is being watched by her little ones. So she cannot afford to cry when she feels like, but at calculated times. Like when the children have gone to bed, or run to the kitchen and shed a tear or two and quickly wipe her face and come out smiling, showing the children that all is well.
She stands her ground out there, knowing that people are wondering what her story is. Some even conclude that she must have had a wayward life, that is why she is where she is. But whatever the story is, the fact remains that she is doing a two-man job. She makes sure that her children are dressed well, so that people don't look down at them or stereotype them.
Most times, she is mentally, physically and spiritually tired, but she keeps going. The children have school activities, she would have to be there, nobody to share the burden. She runs out of milk or bread, she will have to put all of them in the car (that is, if she has a car), regardless of what time it is, to buy just bread.
There is nobody to share school runs with, which can be very tiring, but she keeps going. She is under the weather, but she has to get up, because the children need to be attended to. The only time she can get a bit of rest is when she lays her head on the pillow in the night. And even those times, her brain is still working, doing all sorts of calculations.
I can go on and on...the way your children go 'mummy', 'mummy', and you wish they will just keep quiet for some minutes so that you can think. That is how life is for you. But I want to use this opportunity to salute you (and myself) and to encourage you. God watches over you and it is in your weakness that His strength is perfected. As the scripture says in Isaiah 54:13 that all your children will be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children, so shall it be for you. Be encouraged! RESPECT TO YOU!
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No woman was made by God to be strong. They are tender creature. they are like fragile vessel. But unexpectedly, strange winds blow that leave nothing the same and require that the tender vessel becomes strong all of a sudden...and SHE JUST HAVE TO KEEP GOING. God says He is the father to the fatherless, husband to the widow...but He never made the error to say He is the wife to the widower...just because a woman will not be able to carry the load of a home run properly (since she was not made to be strong), God have to step in and help.
ReplyDeleteto all the single mothers out there, especially my aunt, Doja Adun, GOD BE THY STAY AND STRENGTH
Amen!!! Thank you so much for the comment. You expantiated it even better!!!
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